What would you call a person who from early childhood nurtures left out syndrome. If both parents work it is seen the child blames her mother only.
This far is okay but what if this emotion is fed and pumped into the child by others(grandma..) day by day the child starts to see her mother as a bad mother a selfish woman. It is unfortunate if the parents ignored the symptoms as passing phase.
In many a cases such children grow up as left out , sad and indulge in self pity. They do not behave in any direct manner at situations they face but goads others with miffed complaints as a wronged one to confront and then invariably comes and shows sympathy and empathy to the very parent as if it was not her/his idea.
They always camouflage in guises of a wronged one, too frightened to protest and goad others to speak and act for them. It is unfortunate that mothers sometimes fail to read this in their children
These children grow up to be misfits in normal relationships. Always suspecting his/her secret is known and detected and makes tremendous efforts to influence others in his/her favour. Now suppose this is the case of a girl child and she sees mother as a barrier to her relationship with dear papa, many fold ramifications might occur and I sincerely wish all working mothers should take care to see if the girl child is feeling left alone and jealous of having special relationships with dear papa with the child sent to the grandma
It is really unfortunate that in India we do never think in that line and the problem erupts. the child sees the mother as a rival to her legitimate claim of love and affection of her father.
The question is when is the right time to tell your children that maa and baba have certain special relationships meant for man and wife.
Why should the children suffer this trauma in their early childhood and become misfits in normal social boundaries.
…….to be continued…….
